Reflecting On Our 2016
As the year 2016 moves inexorably toward its end, I thought that I would be happy to put it in the past and move on to a fresh and new 2017. 2016 began positively enough, but took a distinctly negative turn in April, when Harvey was diagnosed with esophageal cancer. Only three years earlier, he had been diagnosed with melanoma, the treatment of which had nearly killed him. Now, we were facing weeks and months of chemotherapy, radiation, and surgery. It was a grueling seven months during which time he struggled with lack of energy, no appetite, extreme weight loss, and general fatigue. I accompanied him on every doctor visit, every chemo treatment, and every radiation treatment, doing my best to support and care for him, as well as advocate for him when needed. In terms of his health, it was our “annus horribilis.”
But, as I reflect on the events of the year, I am surprised at the number of happy memories that come to mind. First of all, we were fortunate to have had the most competent and compassionate doctors, nurses, and staff throughout Harvey’s treatment. Both of us were the beneficiaries of so many kindhearted people. Friends and family offered to help in so many ways, and the warm thoughts and sincere prayers lifted our spirits and sustained us through the darker days. I have a box full of greeting cards, most for Harvey, but some for me as well as the caregiver. I can’t even think about disposing of them.
We were disappointed to have to cancel all of our plans to celebrate our 50th wedding anniversary, including a trip to Maui with our daughter and her family. Subsequent plans to spend a weekend at the Ritz Carlton in Half Moon Bay also had to be cancelled because Harvey just was not doing well. In fact, we “celebrated” the actual anniversary day, August 13th, in the Emergency Room. I cannot minimize how difficult that was, but in the overall scheme of things, we still achieved a significant milestone.
We stayed pretty close to home, but that made it possible for friends to drop by for a short visit now and again. Though Harvey tired easily, those visits made a positive impact on his state of mind. Friends and family played such an important role in his recovery. In fact, we had friends from London, whom we had not seen in 30 years, visit us this past summer. We enjoyed catching up with them, and showing them around our lovely surroundings. We invited them to dinner on the patio at Meridians, and sat out well into the evening. What fun it was to reminisce about our time in London.
We also enjoyed a special visit from Harvey’s sister, Hilma and her daughter, Lynda. We have not seen Hilma here in California in some 20 years, since Dawn’s wedding. What a pleasure it was to visit with them, talking about their parents, and funny stories growing up. Shortly before their visit, Hilma lost her only son to lung cancer. She and her family have also had several difficult years. We were so blessed by their visit.
Dawn, Dirk, Claire, and Cole have been making trips to Lincoln to visit us, but the most special day was Thanksgiving this year, when I actually cooked a turkey for the first time in years. The dinner turned out to be very tasty, and we enjoyed our time together, as always. Of course, we were especially thankful this year for all of our blessings, and in particular, our husband, father, and grampa!
Through it all, I have continued to sing in the choir at church, and just recently have been named choir director, as our current director of worship and his wife have moved on to another church. Members of the church, and most specifically, the choir, have been very supportive throughout, with prayers and cards and words of hope and comfort. It will be an honor and a pleasure to work with all of them in the new year.
So, as I look back, I realize that 2016 has been a very special year; a year filled with friends, family, love, and friendship. To paraphrase a line from the movie, Its A Wonderful Life, we feel like “the richest [couple] in town!” May the Light of the Christmas Season shine in you and through you now and always. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to all!